Our Wedding Journey – how I plan to stay sane

I am a sucker for cute printables and organized systems, and not to toot my own horn, but I am quite an organized person. I love making lists, and I get all giddy when I see my to-do list getting shorter and shorter. Now, staying organized while planning a wedding, I think, is crucial. In this post, I will share with you how I plan to stay organized and keep on top of all the arrangements.

I’ve researched a lot of wedding planning tips and ideas and the wedding binder sounded like the best option. And Tada!!!

My wedding binder was born. In this binder, you will find that I’ve put together all the things I think I would need to stay organized. Let me show you how the planner looks. May I add, I am very proud how it turned out. (please note that all the pages in the binder are in Afrikaans, my home language)

I’ve made the material cover myself. One of my first sewing projects I’ve done with my sewing machine.

When you open the binder, you will find and index. The index gives a summary of the things that is included in the binder. After the index, you will find checklists of things that have to be done for every category. I’ve compiled these lists after researching and reading through a lot of blogs and wedding books and I hope that I have included the most important things for a wedding to run smoothly.

The dividers I’ve made with card stock and some beautiful scrapbooking paper that was on sale at PNA.

After the index and the checklists, you will find the different categories.  Let me break it down for you:

Budget and monthly timeline

This, I would think, is self-explanatory.

Ceremony

Here I will have the contact details of the pastor, and the church. (we are planning on asking a pastor that we know, but we want to use another church for the ceremony)  I will also include any notes on what kind of décor I want at the church and more important what Wiehann and I want the pastor to talk about at the wedding.

Reception

Here you will find contact details of the place where the reception will be. A list of the music that we want to play, a worksheet of the things that we want to hire for the reception. I will also include pictures of décor ideas and activities for the guests to keep themselves busy while we take some photos. I will also include the contract of the venue here.

Caterer and wedding cake

Here you will find the menu and also the baker’s contact details and pictures of wedding cakes for inspiration. After we select a baker, I will put the contract here as well.

Florist

Florist’s contact details and the contact we will sign with them. I want to include pictures here to explain to the florist what I want and ask him or her if they will be able to do achieve it and give me advice for an alternative flower that I can use if the ones that I want are not available.

Videographer and photographer

Again, contact details and contracts. This category also includes a list of photos and moments I want the photographer and the videographer to capture of our special day.

Bride and groom

Here I include pictures of what I want my wedding dress to look like and ideas for the groom aswell. There is also a checklist of all the attire related items that we need to buy or rent.

Bridal party

I am going to ask our bridal party to buy their own clothes. But here I will keep track of who has what and the gifts I am going to buy for them.

Guests and stationary

Here I will put the final guest list with their contact details and keep track if they have RSVP’d.

I’ve found this cute little notebook on sale at Typo’s and I keep this one in my handbag for random thoughts and notes that might pop into my head. I plan on taking the binder with me to appointments only.

Pens and a calculator will accompany the binder most of the time.

At this stage, I am not sure how much this binder cost me because I’ve had most of the materials already. I’ve created the pages in word and printed it off my home printer.

Phew!!! Information overload I think. I would love to hear what you think of this binder. Would you mind answering a question for me in the comment section below? I would like to know if you would rather buy a binder that is ready made or make one yourself?

Thank you for stopping by and sharing a cup of coffee with me.

Talk soon!!

Nadine

Our Wedding Journey

Now that we are engaged and we have set a date to get married, I am getting really excited!!! We decided on the 12th of May 2018. So now the wedding planning can start in full swing as the date is a year away.

Let me tell you, I’ve been planning this wedding for a long time, for almost two years to be precise. So, you can just imagine how thrilled I am to get my ideas out of my head and finally into something I can see and touch. My taste has changed considerably the last few years, but I like the end picture that I am seeing for the wedding.

Words that I would describe the wedding I want to have at the end of the day would be: elegant; romantic with a touch of royalty… MMM… maybe that sounds too cliché, but at this stage, I do not care, that is what I want (and luckily, Wiehann has not opposed to any of my ideas yet! Phew!!!).

I’ve decided that I want to start my wedding journey here on the blog. A wedding what? Well, I am glad you asked.

Our wedding journey will be about my planning (and things I do to keep myself organized and sane), my DIY efforts to save money and everything I want to do to make our dream a reality.  There will be a new post every two weeks on the blog that I will share my progress and maybe a few tutorials that I’ve followed to create some décor pieces.  We will see how it goes.

I am really excited to share this with all of you and hope to give any future brides some tips (and maybe sound advice) and ideas as the planning progress.

The next two posts will be:

The Color Scheme
How I plan to stay Organized and Sane

Talk soon!

Luv
Nadine

Moving back home…

Wiehann and I got engaged in December and now I can finally start planning the wedding I was dreaming about for the last few years. But with the excitement of the engagement also came the big question: where on earth are we going to find the money to get married?! (heart palpitations)

The topic of saving money for our wedding was constantly on my mind after we started ring shopping in June 2016. I tried to think of creative ideas to save a lot of money in a short amount of time. But nothing I came up with was going to save a lot of money… not what you will need for a wedding in any case.

One day my mom suggested that I move back home with her to save money. My first instinct: Hell would freeze over before I do that!! You see, for the last five years, I have been living on my own. I am used to doing my own thing. Plus, I am somewhat of a loner. I like my own company, and thus moving back home felt like I will be giving up a lot. I always thought that the next place I moved in will be with my husband.

But ultimately saving money for my our dream wedding started to weigh more than quality alone time. So I prayed a lot on the subject. And when I made the decision everything just fell into place.

I work from home, and when I discussed it with my boss, he agreed that I can still work for him while I live at home, we communicate through email most of the time. We agreed that we would see each other when necessary to discuss work and the rest of the time we would continue to communicate through email.  Soon after this discussion, someone found me through contacts for my apartment. So in a matter of two weeks, everything was sorted. I moved out on the 31st of December 2016.

The biggest reason that motivated me to move back home was that I didn’t want us to go into debt for our wedding. I don’t see the point of having to pay back money for years after the wedding. If you think about it, it is just one marvelous day, where you declare your love and life to your significant other, and in a few hours after that, it is over.

It is horrible to admit, but you actually decorate the venue for yourself. The guests are there because of the free food and dancing (and the open bar if you have one). You go through the process of sourcing the perfect décor, flowers and music for the venue and the ceremony, and guests will not even remember how the venue looked in a year or so – that is sad!!!

But that being said, every girl dreams of her wedding day from the day she started playing dress up. And we deserve it. Every girl wants to be treated like royalty and feel like royalty on this day, and again – you deserve it. It will probably be the only day that will give you the opportunity to look like the princess or the queen that you are.

So yes, I am going all out where the budget allows. I am going to have the décor that I want. Even if I have to make a few pieces myself. I am actually looking forward to making things for the wedding. And thankfully, Wiehann and I are both crafty and handy respectively. So I can see a lot of DIY’ing for the wedding.

If you are engaged or recently married I would love to hear your money saving tips and tricks and the type of décor you had or planning on having!

Luv
Nadine

Our Engagement

We are engaged!!! We’ve been together a long time (8 years), so I am thrilled that this mile stone has finally come.

I must say that I’ve become anxious over the whole thing in June 2016, because I thought this was not a important for Wiehann. But when we were in Cape Town for a quick holiday and he brought up the subject of searching for a ring and getting brochures from different jewelry stores to find something I like, I was over the moon.

I always known that I wanted something plain and simple, because my hand is small. My ring size is a “L” (or 5.5) so something with a lot of detail will not do.  And the new trend of rose gold was just up my alley. I liked that it was different from the traditional gold or white gold. So I told Wiehann what I liked and he got the ring made through American Swiss when they had a huge diamond sale in August.

So I waited, and waited, and waited….  and patience isn’t even one of my biggest qualities… urgh.  Even when he got the ring in September, he never showed it to me. And I knew he had the ring!! To say it was torture is an understatement.

The end of September he asked Mom for my hand….

December rolled in, that’s when he asked Dad (before he asked me that same day).

We agreed that he would visit me in December, because the last few times I visited him. I secretly hoped it would happen the weekend when he visited, but I didn’t want to get my hopes up, because I the disappointment would have been terrible.

Friday, the second of December, he surprised me by taking the day of from work and drove very early from Montagu to Plettenberg Bay. He didn’t tell me that he was tanking the day off so I was only expected him late that evening.

After I drank some tea and we chatted about work, he said he wanted to go to Keurboom Strand’s beach for the day. So I finished some of my work and we headed out to the beach. When we got there he opened up the car’s boot and he packed a cute picnic basket with snacks. That’s when I started to suspect something was up…

We walked to Arch Rock (which is quite a walk, might I add – and the wind messed with my hair, that’s why it is so flat L) and this is where he asked for my hand J. I am so happy and excited for our future and our upcoming wedding. We have not set a date yet.

Arch Rock – Keurboomstrand
He ‘put a ring on it’
High school sweet hearts

Mom wanted to know what he packed in the basket, so here is was included for those of you who are also curious:

  • Sparkling wine (Blush from Four Cousins)
  • Champagne flutes (which he bought that morning)
  • Varity of biscuits
  • Cheese and cold meat
  • Spring onion and chives flavored cream cheese
  • Cocktail tomatoes
  • Strawberries (my favorite, I ate them all, because Wiehann is not a fan)
  • And chocolate
  • The two plates, knife and forks he got from my kitchen when I was getting my stuff and changing clothes in the bedroom – sneaky hey?
Snacks : yum yum

It was super romantic and I couldn’t have asked for a better location. O, I forgot to mention that I also received red roses…

Stay tuned for wedding planning brainstorming, planning etc…

Luv

Nadine

Why I started a blog….

I think it is a question most bloggers will be faced with. come find out why I started one.

I think all bloggers are faced with this question somewhere down the line, so I thought I should share my story and then maybe give you an update a few months later on how I am experiencing blogging.

After four years studying at the School of Architecture of Nelson Mandela Metropolitan University, I started to work in 2015… after working for a year I realised something… I didn’t like the work as much as I thought I would. Maybe because it was my work situation or I genuinely didn’t like the work as much, I don’t know for certain, but wouldn’t want to bore you with these details as well.

As a designer, many times your creativity is boxed in by what your client want. And this can be quite frustrating as the client don’t always want to listen to your advice or ideas. And your project will always be controlled by the budget of the client. I want to quote the late Zaha Hadid here: “if you want an easy life, don’t be an architect” and I found this particularly true in the profession, but I think all designers can relate to this, can I hear a ‘amen’ my follow designer friends?

In November 2015 I stumbled on to Luzanne’s blog called Pink Peonies. I was so inspired by her beauty blog, because she is a South African woman who had worked hard in creating wonderful content that is insightful and an investment into many South African ladies’ lives. And from there a little seed was planted in the back of my mind that maybe I can do it too.

Months went by where I didn’t think about creating a blog and the times I did think about it, I told myself that I don’t have the time or maybe I am not creative enough to start a blog… so I left it.

Fast forward to June 2016 I got an email from Ultimate Bundles about their Ultimate Homemaking bundle. I looked through the content and instantly knew that the e-books in this bundle will assist me in the coming years as I love everything that has to do with homemaking. I bought the bundle on an impulse while it was on sale.

One of the topics covered in the bundle was ‘working at home’. I love the idea of working from home, especially if you have children. The book that I loved the most was Building a Framework from Abby Lawson of Just a Girl and Her Blog. Her book was so inspiring and full of information on how to create a successful blog. Her book gave me the necessary information and steps in creating a blog. Even though her advice was based on American sites and hosting companies, I was certain that I could find South African equivalent companies and sites.

But still I was not convinced that I can really do it. Self-doubt and criticism played a big role. Will it be successful; will people be bothered to read my blog? Do I have enough to say, etc. etc… (I am certain that you know that little devil that is always sitting on your shoulder very well)  So again I left it, but the idea never left my mind.

One Sunday after church I invited a few friends over for coffee and cake. And I discussed the idea with them. Long story short, they encouraged me to do this. Even though no one reads my blog, I should do it for myself. Create it as a hobby and to give a creative outlet to my frustrations.

So my friends gave me the last push to create a blog and put the negative thoughts out of my mind that I am not good enough to do this. I spend a few months researching different hosting companies, domain names and writing a few blog posts. I’ve found that I enjoy writing a lot. I gave myself a deadline to create a blog and Coffee with Nadine early in January 2017, and here you are reading my first blog post.

And by God’s will and grace, may I make a success of it!

Luv Nadine